Just Say It

Sometimes the only thing you can say and should say is the exact thing the other person is probably thinking. At the visitation of my old friend's mother's funeral, I said it.

I approach her as she was surrounded by people giving their respect. I knew she was saying all the right things, crying & explaining that her Mother went in peace. The minute I saw her I started to cry. I wanted to be strong, but I couldn't. And in some way I knew that she needed someone else to cry with. I hugged her and then as she was talking more people approached I grabbed her hand and walked over to a different area. We talked about being old friends & her Mom and she said how much she missed her. I told that I would be here with her every step of the way. I reminded her that she would be strong, she always has been, how proud her Mother was of her and how dear she was to her. I told her it would be hard, tomorrow even harder. And it will be difficult until its a little bit easier.
Then I said it. Not the most profound, educated or eloquent thing to say, but I said it. I said, You know what, this sucks. And she agreed. Because it does.

Sometimes that is best. Just to say it like it is.